It makes sense that when you're around people that you love (or at least really like) or when you're doing activities that you love or really like, you're going to be pretty damn happy. The key is in identifying those people and activities and spending more time, with them, or doing them. ;>)
So, take a blank sheet of paper and make a list of ten people you really love being with. Next to each name write down the date you were last with them. Some of them, like close family members, you may spend time with everyday. But, if you're like most of us, you don't spend much time with at least half the people on your list. It's simple: If you want to be happier, make spending time with these happiness-inducing people a priority in your life.
Can't see them very often because they live in Timbuktu? That's where technology comes in. Skype them, text them, email them, send them videos on YouTube, call them, or even use the good ole USPS and send them a real card or letter. One way or another make sure you spend your life with happy people, as well as with the people whose presence makes you happy.
Exercise part deux: Make a list of ten activities that give you that old happiness, endorphin rush. And, of course, next to each activity, note the date you last partook. Two of the things on my list are tennis and swimming. I was swimming just yesterday, but I haven't played tennis for months. For me, more tennis would equal more happiness. You'll probably find a similar pattern. Jettison the passive stuff you do just out of habit like watch TV, read crappy novels, or surf the Internet, and replace them with things from your top ten list, and * voila * more happiness in your life!
It's not magic, or Herculean effort, it's just common sense. One way guaranteed to increase your happiness is to make happiness a priority. Hang out with your "happy people" do your "happy acts" and naturally, effortlessly more ecstatic moments and more happy days will be yours.
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