The Happiness Formula

Martin Seligman is the father of  Positive Psychology. An author and University of Pennsylvania professor, he started the nation's first Positive Psychology degree program. And, like any good social scientist, he likes to use formulas. He's even come up with a formula for happiness. Here it is:

H = S + C + V

Got it? Good. Oh, you want some explanation? OK, here's a quick run through.

"H" obviously stands for happiness. "S" is your Happiness Set Point that we talked about in couple of previous posts. "C" stands for conditions, and "V" is voluntary activities. So, what Dr. Seligman is telling us is that your overall happiness is a combination of  your happiness set point, the conditions of your life, and the voluntary activities in which you partake. Let's explore this a bit further. 

Your happiness set point, as you probably remember, is biological in nature. It's a sort of genetic given. It's the innate level of happiness to which you automatically return over time, even after something super wonderful or something tragic happens in your life. Think of it as the level of happiness at which you are most comfortable. 

Now, while there's some level of disagreement over whether you can change your happiness set point, most researchers seems to think that without a concerted and conscious program of self-transformation, it's consistent throughout your lifetime.

Conditions include both personal conditions and life conditions. Some personal conditions like height, eye color, male pattern baldness, etc. are unchangeable. Other external conditions can be changed but are subject to what's called "the adaption principle." This means that you do something like increase your income or buy a bigger house, and at first it makes you really happy, but then you become used to it, and it no longer gives you a thrill. You've become "adapted" to it, and so you return to your happiness set point.

There are certain conditions, though, whose presence makes for unhappiness in almost everyone, and if you change these conditions your increased happiness is not subject to the adaption principle. They include:

* Noise. Especially variable and intermittent noise. Though we tend to adapt to the constant flow of traffic or Muzak, or consistent background noise, loud variable and intermittent noise drives most of us crazy. If you live or work in a place where you're victimized by it, move to a different environment and you will be happier, not just initially but forever. 

* Commuting. No one really likes it; some people handle it better than others. Especially if your commute is driving in heavy traffic, it more than likely has a negative impact on your day-to-day happiness. Not only that, it take minutes, and many times hours, out of your day, hours that can be used to do things, and be with people, you really enjoy. Reduce, or better yet eliminate, your commute, and you'll be happier.

* Control. Feeling out of control? Then you're probably also feeling unhappy. Increase your control over yourself and/or certain elements of your life, and you'll be happier. And it's not just the big elements that count. While I won't go into in any depth here, a research study found that allowing nursing home patients to care for, and choose when to water, plants made them happier than just putting plants in their rooms and having the staff take care of and water them. To find out more see Ellen Langer's groundbreaking book, Mindfulness. 

* Body image shame. Feel ashamed of your body? Do something about it. If you make permanent changes to how you view your body -- through exercise, dietary habits, even plastic surgery -- you will increase your long term happiness. 

* Relationships. Increase both the strength and number of your relationships, and you will be happier. Seligman and other researchers all attest that this is the most important of all the conditions. People make people happy. Who'd' have thunk it? This is such an important condition of happiness that soon I'll devote an entire post to it. We all have our own ways of building relationships and making new relationships -- ways that have worked well for us in the past. So, for now, consciously undertake some of these tried an true methods. You know, pull a Nike and just do it!

Ah, but we still have the voluntary activities component to explain. Well, really, not much explanation is needed. You increase your happiness when you do things you love to do. One distinction is important, however -- the distinction between pleasures and gratifications.

Pleasures have both sensory and emotional components. They include things like food, sex, and cool breezes. The "problem" with pleasures is that you soon reach a saturation point. So, in order for them to continue to bring you pleasure, you must schedule enough time between pleasures that they maintain their potency. The point is to enjoy pleasures when you can, but don't overburden them and expect them to be your only happiness-inducing activities.  

Gratifications are activities that help you get into a flow experience. Gratifications include activities like meditation, exercise, playing music, etc. that fully engage you by calling upon you to use and develop your strengths and potentials. They also assist you in both defining and growing your self. Gratifications are not subject to saturation.  Choose to do those activities that produce gratification, and you'll be much happier than if you merely fill your life with pleasures. In other words, happiness comes through growth.

So, there it is, a fairly wordy explanation of Seligman's simple formula H = S + C + V. Forget the S component for now. Focus upon the C's you can control and that aren't subject to the adaption principle and undertake activities that provide you true gratification. Do so, and happy may soon be your middle name!